From the moment we’re born we are faced with choices. These choices make up who we are. Choices such as choosing a new job, deciding on marrying the man you love, or moving to a new state. These choices make up who we are.

When I was younger I never imagined my life being the way it is now. I actually never really remember what I pictured my life to be like when I was 23. I guess I could see myself being married to the man I love, with two children, living in a big city, working my dream job. But those are big dreams and truthfully I was always one to dream big.

From when I was in elementary school I made some choices that I regret. Choices that have affected my future growing up. Middle school came and went and in high school it couldn’t seem to end. High school was a nightmare, I dreaded waking up in the morning having to face those people then I called my friends. Many I knew, truthfully weren’t. The most popular kids, they were the worst. The choices I had to make to try to get their acceptance wasn’t worth it, and in the end I never ended up getting it. The choices they made to treat me like an outsider worth nothing more than a piece of dirt. But you know what, it may have taken me 23 years to realize it, but I forgive you. Those choices you made, those tears you made me cry, those foul thing you made me do. I forgive you.

To those boyfriends that all they did was use me and make me do things that I can’t even think about without wanting to puke. Those boyfriends that make my trust issue with my soon to be husband, be so hard that 6 years later it still affecting us. To those boyfriends that made me lie, cheat and steal. I forgive you. Because those choices that you made, made me make the choices I made, making me who I am today.

Of course, I am not living the fantasy life but I’m happy. At 23, I have accomplished much more than I could have ever dreamed. Of course, making the right choice in the beginning would have probably led me to many different places. But that’s not what I want, because every choice I made lead me here.

Soon I’ll be marrying the man I have come to know and love, after being with him for 6 years. Soon I will be beginning a new life, at a new job, bringing a wide variety of different opportunities. Of course, I’m not doing this in a big city, or at my dream job but as long as I’m happy I think that’ll work.

In life we are given choices and from the moment we are born to the moment we die, the choices we make, make us who we are.

And as I’ve said before I wouldn’t change a thing.



Written and managed by Chloe and Andrew of Seattle.


  1. beckysbestbites Reply

    We all regret some of the choices that we made when we were younger, but they brought us to where we are today. We cannot look back and only be thankful for the future!! Congrats!

  2. Fi Ni Neachtain Reply

    The fact that you’ve achieved happiness and love at such a young age is a dream come true in itself. There are so many people out there much older than you still trying to figure everything out. Good luck in your new job and with your wedding 🙂

  3. Beautiful post! You’re at a wonderful time in your life…your twenties when choices are bountiful! Just follow both your heart and mind and do the best you can at each choice. 🙂

  4. I loved reading this! I let go of my anger long ago and embraced the life I have because without all my unpleasant experience, I wouldn’t have the life I love today!

  5. Great story! Happiness & love is hard to find if you have found it at your age is a wonderful thing. Like you said so long as you are happy that all thats matter. Everything that occurred in your life was to bring you to this place. Enjoy it and congrats here’s to a new beginning.

  6. Elizabeth O. Reply

    Beautifully said, that’s really all we can do. Accept everything that has happened, move on from it and just be content and happy with the life that we have now. I can’t be any more happier for you! Congratulations on the engagement!

  7. Darn right! Don’t change a thing or wish for something other than what’s happened – because everything you decided brought you to this point!

  8. Very well said.. we can’t live with regrets and every decisions that we made is our choice through happiness, I’m so glad that you achieved it.

  9. Melissa Bernardo Reply

    I would change a thing. It’s amazing how people and things lead us where we need to go.

  10. Very moving! I wish you the best on the next chapter in your life! I often think back to my many terrible choices, and while it is hard to think about it, those choices shaped who I am and made me a better person. Thank you for sharing.

  11. Every one of us go through a situation where a decision has to be made no matter what it is, but it leads to a path which we must be prepared for. I think its is very important to understand the responsibility we hold & make decisions at the end of the day.

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